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Too many marriages start (and end) with vague and un-identified core values. Or are you constantly trying to hide who you are because they want you to be someone you’re not?

Or are they trying to bury you under a pile of dirt?

We all go through intense communication training for years; it’s called childhood.

Letting physical intimacy run wild and free typically means the emotional, spiritual, and personality attraction is lagging behind. Sex while dating can create many awful shades of gray, when what your relationship needs is some honest black and white.

One of the greatest causes for conflict in marriage are contradicting core values.

If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.

Your petals might be beautiful, but if you don’t have any nectar then the bees are just going to fly away. It can prop up an intimacy that has no foundation to sustain it.And if you don’t know your values, how can you expect your partner to have a clue?Not all values are the same and sometimes you can have two very good people with very good values, but those values can feel at war with each other.When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?Take me for example, one of my core values is authenticity.I struggle being in a job, friendship, situations, etc.As I wrote in “If your core values can’t dance together, then you’ll keep tripping, falling and wondering why you can’t move together in rhythm.” For example, you could have a high value for responsibility and the person you’re dating could have a high value for risk.Both values are good, but if not articulated and discussed it could be a point of high conflict if the responsible person likes consistency and persistence, while the risk-taker likes changing things up and going for the impossible.In marriage you begin to rub off on each other, subtly taking on traits and characteristics of the other.Does this thought excite you or does it make you feel like you just digested a can of the before mentioned Play-Doh? And you need to have your own identity beyond your spouse. If you don’t want to become like the person you’re dating, should you be dating?

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